With Prom Season in full swing, tensions are high as you try and find a date, figure out your table arrangements, make hair, nail, and makeup appointments, and, of course, find the perfect dress. For most juniors, this is the first time they will be attending Prom, and as a senior, I’m here to give the real details for those who want to know what actually happens at Prom and what to expect. With a few frequently asked questions, here’s my advice for someone who’s never gone to prom before.
How Do You Find a Date?
If you’re a regular high school student and are part of the majority of the population that isn’t dating anyone, then you are faced with the challenge of finding a date. Although it is completely not necessary to go with a date, if you prefer to go with one here’s some tips on how to find one.
- Ask a friend – you don’t have to be in a relationship with someone in order to go to Prom with them and going with a friend can actually turn out to be more fun.
- Find someone you know in one of your classes – if you know someone in one of your classes that doesn’t have a date, don’t be scared to ask them even if you only know them from the one class you have together.
- Have someone set you up with a mutual friend – if you don’t want to take the initiative in finding a date, ask one of your friends to set you up with someone.
- Go with a group – Although this may not sound appealing for many, the only part of prom that really involves having a date is when you walk down the red carpet. This is also completely optional as you don’t have to walk down it at all and can just get straight on the bus. Going with a group is totally normal and makes it easier and more fun for table arrangements.
What if I wear the same dress as someone else?
This really isn’t a big deal at all as the dress will probably look completely different on you than it does on anyone else. If you are really worried about this, check the prom Facebook group to see all the dresses that other people have decided to wear. If you do end up having the same dress as someone else, here’s how you can make your dress stand out.
- Have an elaborate hairstyle – this will distract people from your dress as your hair will make you stand out as well.
- Accessorize! – accessories can make or break an outfit. Try layering different necklaces to add more sparkle or wear a sparkly choker. If you want to try something different, put on some Flash Tattoos, which can be very cool and different than everyone else.
- Pick a patterned shoe – if your dress is more on the simple side, pair it with a fun, colorful type of shoe that makes your whole outfit stand out. The truth is more people will be staring at your shoes instead of seeing that you have the same dress as someone else.
- Walk with confidence – Just because someone else has the same dress as you doesn’t mean that you don’t look just as good in your dress as she does. Own your dress because you clearly liked it for a reason. Show it off to everyone else!
How do I talk to my date?
If you happen to end up going to Prom with a complete stranger or someone you don’t know very well, don’t be nervous. Believe it or not, it happens to a lot of people. We’ve all had those dates that you just go with so that you can have a date and at times it can be very awkward. You might be with your date the entire night so here are some tips on how to talk to them.
- Text your date before prom – it is important that you and your date are on the same page about your plans for Prom. Ask them about pre-pictures, what color your dress is and if you need to get a corsage or a boutonniere. Find out who’s driving, table arrangements and what you want to eat for dinner, of course. These are all conversations that can help you to get to know your date a little better before the big day.
- Say “hi” to your date in the hallways – A simple hello can be nice and friendly and shows that you don’t have to be strangers to each other.
- Talk together with groups of friends – during Prom there are hundreds of kids around you so if you feel uncomfortable talking to your date alone, talk in groups or have a friend come stand by you with their date so you can all talk together.
- Find something you have in common – if you find something that the both of you have in common it can help create conversation since it’s something both of you enjoy.
- Talk about Prom – this is something you’re both experiencing together, so talk about what’s happening around you or what you like or hate about the experience.
How do you get rid of nerves for walking on the red carpet?
It can be a little intimidating as you walk out onto the red carpet in fear of tripping on your dress, down the stairs, or on your own feet. In fact, it can be quite nerve wracking. If you do happen to trip, it’s not a big deal. Just stand up, walk it off and laugh about it with your date who just witnessed the whole experience with you. If you want to minimize tripping consider wearing shoes that you feel comfortable walking in as well.
What happens if I don’t sit at a table with my friends?
The good thing is is that dinner actually doesn’t take very long. Most of the time that you’re there involves eating your food. For the times that you do need to talk, you won’t be alone considering there are 4 other couples at the same table as you. Even if you don’t know everyone at your table it is easy to make small talk while you wait for your meal.
- Go around and introduce everybody
- Talk about school – I know, how boring. But it’s something you all have in common and people do relish in conversation about bashing on a common subject.
- Talk about the food – The food is clearly in front of you so it’s an easy subject to talk about. Is it good? How hungry are you? What do you wish they were serving?
- Talk normally – If you probably don’t know anyone at your table, the people sitting with you are most likely in the same boat as you and feel just as uncomfortable. Kill the silence by asking questions about the people you’re sitting with.
What should I take away from prom?
Prom is something special that is a rite of passage in high school. If you have the opportunity to go, you should. Prom could end up being one of the best nights of your life and you would miss out on so much if you decided not to go. If you do go, make the best of it and experience everything with an open mind rather than thinking it’s all dumb and trying to leave as fast as you can. Eat the food, meet new people, take your shoes off to dance, and have fun. Prom isn’t meant to be scary and there’s a lot of people at this school that have taken the time to make it as special as possible.