It’s very likely that if you have an iPhone, and perhaps, even more likely that you are reading this on an iPhone. Which, using deductive reasoning, tells me that you are probably involved in a group chat. Whether you partake in one or twelve chats, we can all agree that they are one of the best and most useful features on the iPhone. Group chats are the perfect way to communicate and make plans with your friends when you’re not together. But as we all know, with the good comes the bad, and with the bad comes the increasingly annoying at times. Group chats have just as many drawbacks as they do benefits. These negatives include the following inevitable struggles that almost 100% of the chatters face.
The group chat alert usually buzzes when you are busy and cannot look at it: Timing is everything, but group chats–being on the separate schedules of more than 3 people–do not appear to know anything about this. I’m not exactly sure why this happens, but whenever I am unable to check my phone, it will not stop buzzing. Whether I am unavailable because of work, busy doing homework, or at a sports practice, every group chat that I am in goes off uncontrollably at the most inopportune time. All of a sudden, your friends seem as though they have to talk about everything and feel the need to send what appears as hundreds of texts all at once.
The one time you actually want people to talk in it, no one does: I’m pretty sure we can all agree that there is almost nothing more frustrating than when nobody talks in your group chat while you’re bored or have nothing to do. Without even realizing, I find myself checking my phone non-stop, hoping that each time I check it I will have a new notification.
When you send a text and no one replies: One of the best/worst things about group chats is that you’re able to send the same text to multiple people. This is great because the more people that are involved in your group chat, the more likely it will be that someone replies to you. But on the other hand, when you are in a large group chat and no one replies to your most recent text it is down right embarrassing. Especially when you thought your text was rather witty.
When you look at your phone for the first time in an hour and see tons of messages, but none of them are actually for you: Now don’t get me wrong, I love getting text messages just as much as the next person. Opening up your phone and seeing that you have an abundance of notifications is honestly such an amazing, gratifying and rewarding feeling of accomplishment. But once you unlock your phone and realize that every single one of those messages was from a group chat, it takes away every ounce of excitement you previously had. Mostly because a majority of those texts that you received were either a random emoji or a message not even meant for you.
It takes an unnecessary amount of energy to catch up on group texts you missed: Trying to catch up on group texts you’ve missed is like walking into a movie that is half way through and trying to figure out what’s going on. It takes a tremendous amount of scrolling, focus and dedication in order to catch up on everything you have missed, so don’t count on going anywhere for a while.
When you’re scrolling up to read messages you missed and then a new text comes in and it automatically brings you back to the bottom: The first step in catching up on missed messages is scrolling and trying to find the spot in the chat where they all started. Once you locate where it all began, it’s time to start reading. But just when you’re about to start reading, the worst imaginable thing happens: someone sends a new text. This one, single text message reverses all your hard work and automatically brings you back to the bottom of the chat. Let me tell you, it’s honestly one of the most frustrating things a person will ever go through.
Accidentally texting in the wrong group chat: We’ve all been there and I’m pretty sure we all know how unfortunate it is when you send an unintentional text. The second after you press that send button, your heart instantly drops to the bottom of your chest as you realize how much you’ve messed up. As you sit there, anxiously waiting for someone to reply with “What?” or worse, a million ideas of what people will say rushes through your head.
Having someone in your chat who never talks/participates in any of the convos: We all have that one person in the group chat that never participates in any “convo” and most likely doesn’t even read the messages. They’re just kind of there. We don’t know whether they want to be in the group chat or not. We never know if we should remove them so we just leave them there and hope that they aren’t completely and utterly annoyed.
When two people start having a conversation in the group chat instead of texting privately: Whenever I look at my phone and see multiple messages from the same two people, I instantly know not to bother looking at the text. Almost every time this happens, it’s two people having a personal “convo” that doesn’t apply to you and would be a complete waste of your time to read.
Everytime you go to bed, your phone wont stop vibrating: After finally convincing yourself to get off your phone and go to bed, it’s no surprise that your phone won’t stop buzzing. Group chatters obviously have no concept of time. After trying to wait it out in hopes that it will eventually stop, you’ve come to terms with the fact that it will never stop buzzing. Before you know it, you’re on your phone texting back and contributing to the whole reason why your phone wouldn’t stop buzzing in the first place.